Have you heard of quantum entanglement?
This is not a lesson in physics. I am just trying to find a way to prove a point. And I believe the best way to start is with something as minute as an electron.
Quantum entanglement in physics is the state where two electron particles are so strongly entangled or connected that actions performed on one can affect the other, even when separated by great distances.
This phenomena actually baffled scientist Albert Einstein who called it “spooky action at a distance” because it violates the rule that no information can be transmitted faster than the speed of light.
There is, however, a more romantic description by Psychology Today. The website explains that “the experience of falling in love is altogether reminiscent of what in quantum physics is known as entanglement.
In the microscopic realm, once two particles experience a shared state, they are no longer separate entities but exist as one. This remains true even when they are separated by a great distance. The coupling moves the two individuals into an entangled sense of oneness.”
The rationale behind this, according to Psychology Today , is that all living beings are energy fields manifesting through their physical. “Our energy field resonates and harmonizes with each other’s so that two individuals are no longer distinctly separate. This energetic interchange happens simultaneously on physical, emotional, and spiritual levels.”
To put it simply, human beings affect one another by their very existence and interaction with each other, whether they are aware of it or not.
CHANGE OURSELVES TO CHANGE THE WORLD
Let me say this again: my article is not a treatise on quantum physics. It is just that the concept of quantum entanglement explains well the idea I’ve always wanted to broach to any one who might find the idea difficult to comprehend. If I start with something as small as an electron, you will see that it all makes sense.
The idea of changing ourselves to change the world is a good scheme as it is softer and non-confrontational approach to social transformation.
ANONYMOUS
STEALTH OPERATOR
I like the non-aggressive, “stealth” approach to life — a course of action that’s hardly detectable, quiet , under the radar but produces a formidable impact that changes the game.
But then ideas that aren’t mainstream or have not been cuddled in the minds of the majority are considered revolutionary, ground breaking or ,even worst, controversial.
Considering that I value my privacy and peace of mind, I would rather that someone else takes the credit for pushing an idea that’s deviant and out of the ordinary even if this becomes wildly successful. That is why I am mentioning it in this article.
The idea of changing ourselves to change the world is indeed radical for most people because they think of themselves as separate from one another; not one cohesive field of ambient energy.
EMOTIONAL INTIMACY
Take the case of this one particular idea that’s surprisingly radical to most people, particularly westerners — emotional intimacy in friendship.
So what is emotional intimacy ? Why does it make most people uncomfortable, particularly men ?
Emotional closeness is an aspect of interpersonal relationships. It involves a perception of closeness to another that allows sharing of deep feelings, vulnerabilities and trust accompanied by expectations of understanding, affirmation, and demonstration of caring. Emotional intimacy can be expressed in verbal and non-verbal communication, and the degree of its intensity depends on the nature of the relationship and the culture in which it is observed.
Global culture currently places too much emphasis on romance and not enough on the value of friendships. I believe close friendships are just as intense and meaningful as what one might experience in a marriage. The only thing that is missing from a close friendship is sexual intimacy.
Yet movies, books and society seem to put all the emphasis only on romantic relationships, claiming it has a monopoly on love.
Since I’m writing this article, allow me to expound further on this subject. What if I tell you love can be enjoyed without the complications of sex or romantic entanglements? The reason it doesn’t is because society forces us to keep our friends at arm’s length.
Regular friends, as society pictures it, talk about everything they have in common, except those matters that are uncomfortable, emotionally charged, thought provoking and those that pertain to their relationship. Also, there’s this issue regarding physical expression of affection which moral pundits consider proper: a hug that is not too long; a kiss on the cheek that is more of a quick, light peck; no holding of hands or any part of the arm unless you are helping a PWD or assisting someone overcome a physical challenge. Anything beyond that is considered a romantic relationship.
Tell me if I am wrong, we are more fearful of how society would judge us if we go outside the norm than nurturing true friendships. Most people would rather lose their minds while living a life of quiet desperation than lose the respect of the public.
In a society that equates love with sexual contact, it’s no wonder our friendships are largely shallow and devoid of any deep and meaningful interaction. It’s also no wonder many of us still feel lonely, empty and isolated despite having many so called “friends” or “relationships”. No wonder professional “cuddlers” (pay to cuddle) are on the rise in western societies.
Emotional intimacy in friendship is just one of my ideas which I couldn’t possibly discuss with anyone in a noisy coffee shop. Thank God, I have this blog. I can write down as many of my ideas as I want. I hope that someone out there will read and run with it and bring it to fruition. It would make the world a better place to live.
A VIRTUAL CHAT
I would be happy to have someone else take the spotlight and the media’s cameras, while I drink my tea in peace and still be able to walk through the streets and malls in anonymity.
I can imagine myself being a friend to the world’s future reformers. Maybe out of the blue, in one of our casual conversations at a tea shop, I would probably advance a radical idea or two to him / her. This hopefully ignites him/ her to organize a global movement that influences thousands of people to change their lives and how they perceive the world.
In other words, I can indirectly change society just by being myself and without breaking a sweat.
Fame does not bring meaning to my life; making a difference in someone else’s life does. I’d like to have enough money to live comfortably and afford the experiences I crave; but not too much to the point that I lose my moral compass.
ANONYMOUS
Relaxing, substantial, non-formal conversations with friends who are advocates or reformers would be something I would definitely enjoy in the years to come more than protesting in the streets or joining organizations that promote a political or social cause.
At this point, can I propose an idea ? Are you open to having a spirited chat with me over tea via zoom ?
Take a few minutes to ponder on that. Let me know your thoughts and feelings.
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